Comments on: Relationship & Reputation: Internet Casualties http://www.erelevant.net/2008/12/09/relationship-reputation-internet-casualties/ A blog about electronic marketing, culture, and life on the digital frontier. Mon, 05 Apr 2010 15:47:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.1 By: Morgan http://www.erelevant.net/2008/12/09/relationship-reputation-internet-casualties/comment-page-1/#comment-71752 Morgan Thu, 11 Dec 2008 05:11:21 +0000 http://www.erelevant.net/2008/12/09/relationship-reputation-internet-casualties/#comment-71752 Charlie: Funny you mention it, just a few weeks ago I started using Facebook more intensively and I cut-off a lot of friends that I didn't really know. I've become something of a zealot when it comes to being aware of what we post online. I've been scaring the other parents that I work with, some of whom have children under 10 who use social networking unsupervised. Charlie: Funny you mention it, just a few weeks ago I started using Facebook more intensively and I cut-off a lot of friends that I didn’t really know. I’ve become something of a zealot when it comes to being aware of what we post online. I’ve been scaring the other parents that I work with, some of whom have children under 10 who use social networking unsupervised.

]]> By: Charlie Melichar http://www.erelevant.net/2008/12/09/relationship-reputation-internet-casualties/comment-page-1/#comment-71733 Charlie Melichar Wed, 10 Dec 2008 21:40:50 +0000 http://www.erelevant.net/2008/12/09/relationship-reputation-internet-casualties/#comment-71733 This touches on a lot of the points I try to make in talks (and rants) about the impact of the web on relationships. I've become increasingly interested in how it plays out. Assuming there isn't a major breakthrough our some kind of policy introduced, I think we'll head in one of two directions: 1. People will pull back significantly, sharing much less information about themselves online (doubt it) or; 2. People, and technology, will adapt to the overload. Look at Twitter, Facebook status updates, blog postings, Flickr, and on and on. The "connected masses" are leading highly public lives that, as you note, are being archived. What I don't think we've yet achieved is the disconnection. Loads of new people are joining Facebook, experimenting with Twitter, etc. and firing off scores of connections -- often to people they soon realize they don't want to be connected to. Maybe it's a long-lost friend who was "lost" for good reason. Right now, my sense is that people aren't as comfortable with disconnecting using these technologies, but I think we'll get there. Along with that, we'll also see a higher level of awareness about what it means to post, comment, etc. Maybe I'm being overly optimistic, but I think we're in the mess of something very new right now that human behavior just hasn't caught up with yet. This touches on a lot of the points I try to make in talks (and rants) about the impact of the web on relationships. I’ve become increasingly interested in how it plays out. Assuming there isn’t a major breakthrough our some kind of policy introduced, I think we’ll head in one of two directions: 1. People will pull back significantly, sharing much less information about themselves online (doubt it) or; 2. People, and technology, will adapt to the overload.

Look at Twitter, Facebook status updates, blog postings, Flickr, and on and on. The “connected masses” are leading highly public lives that, as you note, are being archived. What I don’t think we’ve yet achieved is the disconnection. Loads of new people are joining Facebook, experimenting with Twitter, etc. and firing off scores of connections — often to people they soon realize they don’t want to be connected to. Maybe it’s a long-lost friend who was “lost” for good reason. Right now, my sense is that people aren’t as comfortable with disconnecting using these technologies, but I think we’ll get there. Along with that, we’ll also see a higher level of awareness about what it means to post, comment, etc.

Maybe I’m being overly optimistic, but I think we’re in the mess of something very new right now that human behavior just hasn’t caught up with yet.

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